“We ought
not to try quantify and measure grief. What you feel is real and you
have the right to feel that. It is for you to decide how hard it really
is. Don't let others tell you that your loss is less painful than
someone else's loss. Though the circumstances of how the loss occurred
might be very different, what is the same is the human condition of
suffering and sorrow. Typically, people will make an assumption that the
length of the pregnancy relates to the amount of grief that you will
feel. Therefore the belief follows: a 9 month pregnancy loss is worse
than a 3 month pregnancy loss which is worse than a 2 week pregnancy
loss. You cannot measure the amount of attachment and love by the size
of the body or the length of time you have known someone. Love cannot be
so easily quantified and measured. Love is love, even if it was the
love of the dream and the child s/he would have been. When someone you
love dies, they are gone from this earth and it is natural to miss them,
grieve for them and seek ways to keep them alive in your heart...Are
miscarriage and stillbirth really all that different?”
~Sherry Jimenez
