March lovin'...

 

March lovin' thanks to: Tracy, Jen F. Jennifer Y., Monica M., Jante, Antoinette, Lorraine, Heather Fe., Mary, Brenda, Shawna, Glenda, Cam, Terra, Michelle P., Michelle F., Anne, Noelene, Carmel, Alyssa, Caroline, Molly, Cally, Cygni, Alissa, Lara, Kathy, Heather Fi., Michelle R., Neo, Megan, Virginia, and Valerie!

#flashbackfriday...

An American Girl doll commercial just came on tv and it got me 

All. Choked. Up. 

Flashback to September long weekend 2009...

I went to NYC with my 2 besties and while there we went on a whirlwind 3 day tour 

which included a trip to the American Girl Place in Manhattan. 

I remember walking through the store in absolute awe! 

1) Choose a doll.

2) Pick out an outfit for the doll and one that matches for your little girl.

 3) Go to the salon to have your doll's hair done!

4) Daughter/doll photoshoot time!

 5) Then top off the day with a trip to the AGP café!

(Of course it wouldn't all have to be done in one day but... When in New York!)

I was *so* hoping that I was pregnant with a girl. 

I fell completely in love with the store and all of it's magical little girl beauty! 

I was so hoping I could go back with her someday.

I still feel those feelings. 

That awe.

That giddiness.

That longing for my girl.

Today the commercial came on and Lucy stopped in her tracks watching intently and then immediately began repeating, "I want that girl! I want that one on tv!"

I'm glad I have a little Rainbow girl to one day share that experience with.

Lucy's doll will have blond hair and blue eyes.

I still wonder what Claire's doll would have looked like....

This is not the way...

Today, March 10th, marks Claire's due date. 

I should be planning a 4th birthday party. 

Instead I am consumed by what I am going to do in October 

to make it an extra special 5th birthday memorial celebration.

This year is weighing heavily on my heart.
This is not the way a parent should ever have to parent.

How has it been 4 years?
How will her 5th birthday be later this year?
How is it that the math is so backwards?

a WHOLE lot of lovin'...

October 1, 2012 - September 30, 2013
544 winks

What an outstanding display of love!

We cannot express enough how much it means to us that you have taken a moment out of your day to think of us, to take out your camera and snap a pic, and then send it our way.

We are thankful beyond words!

___________________________________

  

And now for playing catch up...

Day 2: Identity

iden·ti·ty noun \ī-ˈden-tə-tē, ə-, -ˈde-nə-\
:who someone is
:the name of a person

To see where all of these lovely name photos came from check out Claire's Name Gallery.

Day 1: Sunrise

 Happy 4rd Birthday to my Claire! ♥
 
sunrise noun \ˈsən-ˌrīz\
: the time when the sun appears above the horizon in the morning : dawn or daybreak
: the colors that are in the sky when the sun slowly appears above the horizon

Yellowknife, Northwest Territories, Canada
7:44am

September lovin'...

September lovin' thanks to:  Peggy and Mykayla, Carrie, Lara, Amber, Brandy, Megan, Holly, Jessica, Lea, Shannon, Virginia, Rachel, Molly, Janet, Michelle, Theresa, Mandi, Sheila, Tracy, Monica, Antoinette, Yolanda, Jennifer, Maureen and Kerry, Grainne and Vanessa.

...minute by minute...

...that is how today's date goes...

...I once again relive it all...

...one minute to the next...

"This love wasn't enough for us to survive
I swear, I swear, I swear I tried
You took the life right out of me
I'm so unlucky I can't breathe
You took the life right out of me
I'm longing for your heartbeat
Heartbeat, heartbeat"

~Beyoncé Knowles
 
Tomorrow is Claire's birthday however today is the day that we heard the words,

"I'm sorry, there is no heartbeat."

The day that forever changed my life.

The day I had to share my devastation with my family and friends, 
the day I went to the hospital to be induced, 
the day that seemed to last forever yet was over in the blink of an eye. 

The day that the waiting began,
that the grief began,
that the loneliness began,
that the overwhelming heartache began,
that the indescribable sadness began,

...when the beginning meant the end...

The one day that haunts me every year when

...I once again relive it all...

...one minute to the next... 

9 years ago today...

  I lost my first baby.

It made me question everything about my future plans.

It's strange looking back after how far we have come as a family.

What would our family look like now if that baby had survived?

You can find my Little Love's story here.

Dans ma famille nous sommes...

Exactement mon homme!

So proud of my little man's school project.
I love that he never hesitates to include her.

(Now the only thing we need to work on is proper spelling of her name! Haha!)

I can't remember the punch line...

At the beginning of the month I went away with my family to Edmonton. On the Saturday evening we all went out to celebrate both my cousin and uncle's birthdays by hitting up a comedy show. The guys performing had us in stitches!

One guy was part way through his set when he started a new joke with, 

"And then there was this girl Claire..." 

I cannot for the life of me remember what the joke was about as when I heard her name my heart skipped a beat and my head got kind of cloudy, kind of like blurred out slow motion.

I instantly wondered if and how it affected those I was with...

Did they hear her name too?

Did they immediately think of her too?

Did their world stop for a millisecond?

Did their heart skip a beat?

Did they wonder if I heard it and how it affected me?

Or did it go unnoticed to them?

It's amazing how one name can trigger so such emotion.

It's amazing that in one quick weekend away that name appeared twice.

(See previous post here.)

It's amazing how much I love her even though she is no longer here...

In print...

I love it when I hear Claire's name. 

Be it on tv, on the radio, in casual conversation, it always makes me pause and smile.

I also love to see it, like I did in the book I was reading on the plane this past weekend! 

Up popped her name and all I could do was stare and smile and then take a picture! 

And then to sweeten my reading experience a little more... up popped Lucy's name!

August lovin'...

August lovin' thanks to: Elaine and William, Antoinette, Kate, Belinda, Jasmin and James, 

Wendy, Becky, Lina, Cally, Heather, Maureen, Amber, Vanessa, Holly, Tracy, 

Lara with Davide and Paul, Molly, Virginia, Mandi S, Mandi M, and Heather.

Claire's Prayer Flag 2013...

My Claire's Prayer Flag in honor of today,  

August 19th Day of Hope.

I adored working on this project for a second year in a row!

There are not many times during the year that I get to spend uninterrupted creative Claire time so I soaked it all up in the wee hours of Saturday evening/Sunday morning. I gathered all of my material and accessories and began brainstorming, playing, organizing, and doing a lot of changing my mind along the way until I came up with a design idea that I adored! 

And this is what I came up with: 

  'C' is for Claire, our sweet baby girl.
Orange is her color as she was born in the fall.
Red for the lettering as it is the color of love.
A heart for the many winks we have received from around the world.
4 buttons on the heart as she was my 4th pregnancy.
3 orange stripes represent her being the 3rd baby I gave birth to.
x for kisses / heart for love / o for hugs

To view the many beautiful, meaningful prayer flags made by families from around the world in honor of their babies, check out CarlyMarie's Facebook page here:

August 19th - Day of Hope: The Prayer Flag Project

July lovin'...

July lovin' thanks to: Heather, Evelyne, Amber, Melanie, Karen, Cally, Crystal, Lara, 

Tracy, Monica, Wendy, Glenda, Yolanda, Caroline, Tara, Heather, Sky, 

Emalee, Michelle, Tammy, Kylie, Caitlin, and Brittany.

He always includes her...

"Mommy! Come see! It's for Claire so she can be at the beach too!"

I love you William.

Thank you for remembering your sister and including her. 

You are a sweet, thoughtful, caring soul.

Hot air balloon ride for our babies...

Such a beautiful way to have your baby(ies) honored on the 

25th anniversary of Pregnancy and Infant Loss Awareness month!

still birthday will be releasing petalled heart shaped plantable 

seed confetti during their hot air balloon ride. 

Each heart will hold the name of a baby remembered.

To submit your baby(ies) name(s) click here.

June lovin'...

Thank you to: Cassie, Lara, Tracy, Shelby, Karen. Lee, Julie, Virginia, Rachel, Terr-Lynn, Emalee, Dena, Caitlin, Ashli, Angie, Carolyn, Theresa, Wendy, Caroline, Jennifer P., Jennifer Y, Jemma, Monica, Molly, Antoinette, Michelle, Brandy, and Amber!

Lucy finds her first wink...

While on a wee walk, Lucy stopped in a neighbor's driveway to play with rocks. 

Not 30 seconds into playing, she popped up and said, 

"Mommy! Look I find a heart!" 

In a sea of thousands of little rocks she found some lovin' from her big sister...

her first wink!

Grocery store goodness...

While at the grocery store on the weekend, I picked up corn picks for the family 

as summer is here(ish) which means... 

fresh corn on the cob!

 
William looked at the 2 packages and began to count the picks and do the math.

"Mommy, you bought 6 because there is 6 people, well 6 living. 

If we still had Claire you would have to buy a whole new pack."

So smart. So sentimental.